Accept What Is


By Vicky Westra


Wherever we are on our journey, we will have to get to a place of acceptance of what is before we can move in the direction of creating is the life that we want.


I spent many years in denial, wishing my situation wasn’t what it was.  “Having a diagnosis of Autism for my daughter wasn’t in my plan, hence it shouldn’t be happening”, I lamented.   However, the reality of it is that until we accept the situation or circumstance that we’ve been dealt (or that currently is), we won’t be able to see how this situation can actually serve us or create the contrast (what we don’t want) that helps us to more clearly identify what it is that we do want to create.


Everyone faces challenges, yet somehow when these challenges are happening to us, we feel like a victim.  Statements like “why me?” or “this shouldn’t be happening to me”, give us clues that we are not in a place of acceptance.  This keeps us in the “Red Zone,” or feeling very disempowered. However, once we become aware of this, then we can start really examining these thoughts.  Even introducing a new spin on these thoughts like “why not me?” or just acknowledging that “yes, this is happening to me” or “it is what it is”, can help us to move closer to accepting our situation.


Once we practice these statements and emotions for a little while and start getting comfortable that things are as they should be, we can keep moving towards even more positive statements and feelings about our situation.  What if we started to see that what we originally thought to be a negative situation is actually here to serve us or help us to grow and expand in positive ways?   Even opening ourselves up to the possibility of this can provide us with access to more clarity about what our desired future looks like, or can show us what our next steps might be to move towards creating a positive shift in our life experience.


I remember being in the early stages of accepting our daughter Gabbi’s diagnosis and for loving her exactly as she was.  I had so much resistance to “what was” that when I let go of the belief that things shouldn’t be as they are, I felt so much relief!  When we surrender our resistance, our “cork can float” again (our spirits rise) and it’s a very freeing feeling.  Releasing this resistance is what allows us the freedom and openness to see other possibilities.  It starts moving us into the “Green Zone,” where we have the hope of creating something positive out of what we previously perceived as a negative.


That’s what happened to me and what can also happen for you.  Whether you are a parent who is not yet in a place of acceptance of the diagnosis, or whether you are a person on the Autism Spectrum who hasn’t accepted the diagnosis/ feels a lot of resistance about it; you can shift this mindset by following this simple process.


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